Wife seeks advice as pastor urges her to punish her hardworking husband

A Nigerian woman opens up on a challenging dilemma faced between her pastor’s advice and her husband’s efforts to provide for their family.

In an anonymous message to a relationship adviser, the embattled woman recounted how her pastor, a father figure in her life, instructed her to stop allowing her husband to touch her until he found a job.

She revealed that the pastor disapproves of her husband, who, despite holding a master’s degree, has resorted to manual labour to support their family.

The turning point came when she saw her husband working as a labourer on a construction site, carrying blocks and sand. Moved to tears, she struggled to reconcile her husband’s determination with the pastor’s instructions.

Despite her husband bringing home his earnings, she refused to accept the money, torn between loyalty to her pastor and compassion for her struggling spouse.

How My Pastor Made Me Punish My Husband

“My pastor warned me to stop allowing my husband touch me untill he gets a job. He does not like my husband and this my pastor is like a father to me. My husband is good and struggling.

“Mama yesterday on my way back from work I saw my husband doing conkeri work, he was carrying block and sands in a building close bye i cried my eyes out. He got home with the money and gave me. I refused. My pastor said that he needs to keep doing it.

“I am confused because even this morning he has gone back to the site and he has masters. Please my daughter that is 8years cried too sleep yesterday when she saw her father. I am emotional about this whole thing.”