A young widow with children shouldn’t remain unmarried after the demise of her husband – Nigerian woman says

A Nigerian woman and mother, Progress Okuk, has said that young widows with children should not remain unmarried after the demise of their husbands.

She however added that if a widow chooses not to remarry it should come from personal conviction and not societal expectations.

“I use to question why widowed younger women were allowed to stay unmarried. I didn’t think it was a good thing that a woman who lost her husband in her 30’s would not seek to remarry; choosing instead to raise her children alone till old age,” she wrote in a Facebook post on Friday.

But I have also come to realize that there are certain bonds between a man and woman, that can’t be explained; even in death.

There is how a man would love a woman, that it becomes humanly impossible for any other man to fill the void, whether after a breakup or in his demise.

She imagines it a desecration, opening her body to another man; consequently, she simply locks up, for fear of mediocrity or simply in honor of what they shared. There are indeed different levels to this thing called “love”.

Even though I respect her choice, I still do NOT accept the idea that a young widow, with children, would remain unmarried after the demise of her husband.