Actor Reza Farahan says he had a fling and threesome with TV personality Bob Harper

Reza Farahan has revealed details about a past relationship with Bob Harper, describing how their friendship evolved into a complicated romantic situation.

In his memoir, Memoirs of a Gay Shah, Farahan said the two met while working in the fitness industry and quickly became close, eventually developing a friends-with-benefits dynamic. However, he noted that the relationship never progressed into something more serious, which was what he had hoped for at the time.

Farahan, who is now married to Adam Neely, said he chose to keep things casual after sensing that Harper was not interested in a deeper commitment.

According to him, the situation became more complex after Harper married his partner, Scott. Farahan said he remained close to both men, and the relationship dynamic eventually developed into a threes0me.

He described the experience as “bittersweet,” adding that he held no resentment toward Scott, who has since passed away. Despite the circumstances, Farahan said he and Harper have remained on good terms and recently worked together on the sale of Harper’s home.

Harper has previously acknowledged their past connection, stating on television that the two “had a thing,” describing it as a “tawdry little” situation. Farahan said the experience ultimately served as a turning point, helping him realise he wanted a committed and loyal relationship rather than being someone’s second choice.