“Don’t waste 15–20 years in mumu marriage” — interior designer Ehizogie Ogbebor speaks out on abusive unions

Celebrity interior designer Ehizogie Ogbebor has shared a deeply personal and emotional message, calling out what she described as “mumu marriage” and urging women to stop losing themselves in abusive relationships.

In a video posted after church, Ehizogie revealed that she got married at 18 and ran away from the marriage at 20 with two children, after almost losing her son due to abuse. According to her, that experience shaped her strong views on marriage, self-worth, and mental health.

She lamented how many intelligent, loving women stay for 15 to 20 years in marriages that drain them emotionally, mentally, and financially, often in the name of endurance, children, or family pressure. She said such women slowly lose their confidence, identity, and happiness while trying to “manage” men who neither appreciate them nor understand what marriage truly means.

Ehizogie stressed that children are deeply affected by growing up in homes filled with tension, neglect, and emotional abuse, adding that staying “for the kids” often does more harm than good. She also pointed out that many women who sacrifice everything end up being abandoned when their husbands suddenly “find themselves” or discover “greener pastures.”

While clarifying that she is not encouraging people to walk out of marriage at the slightest issue, she emphasized the importance of knowing when a relationship has reached a dead end. According to her, when mental health, self-confidence, and peace are completely gone and there is no willingness to change, walking away may be the wiser option.

She encouraged women to seek help, stand up for themselves, and stop living in fear of public opinion, saying it is better to be labeled than to grow old unhappy and broken.

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