“Na begging end the matter” – Man whose wife asked him to change baby diapers reveals what he did

A debate on gender roles in Nigerian homes has stirred strong reactions online after a social media user advised men against helping with house chores.

The comment, shared on X, formerly Twitter, quickly drew attention as many users questioned long-held beliefs about marriage, responsibility, and partnership in modern homes.

Post sparks mixed reactions online

In the viral post, the user argued that cooking and washing dishes should remain a woman’s responsibility, while men should focus on providing for the household.

He warned that helping with chores could reduce a man’s authority in the home and change traditional family roles.

He wrote: “I’ll say this once. Don’t make it a habit to be ‘helping out’ in house chores.

“All these: ‘She’ll cook, I’ll wash plates’ BS shouldn’t be happening in the first place. That’s her duty. To keep the home running.

“If you start giving her the power to tell you to do things in the house, sooner or later, both of you will start wearing the same trousers.

“She cooks. You eat. She takes your plate to the kitchen & wash it. You’re already providing for the house. That’s the least. she can do. Y’all have gotten too soft.”

The post attracted criticism and support, with many users describing the opinion as outdated and dismissive of teamwork in marriage.

Reacting, another X user, identified as TheDabullit, shared a personal experience, suggesting that help in the home should be voluntary, not forced.

He wrote: “Not one clown telling me to change diapers since I wasn’t busy, so you see me finish because contracts no dey again and I dey house with you.

“No worry. Took my stuff traveled for a week, na begging end the matter, if I chose to assist don’t make it my chores.”

The exchange has continued to trend, with Nigerians debating respect, cooperation, and changing social values within marriage.