Nobody struggles hard like a woman who is trying very hard to ‘pepper’ her ex-husband – Nigerian journalist says as he addresses divorced women

Nigerian journalist and poet, Abdullahi Haruna Haruspice, has advised divorced women to let go of the past and rebuild their lives instead of seeking validation or trying hard to get their ex-husbands jealous.

“Nobody struggles hard like a woman who is trying very hard to pepper her ex-husband. In doing this, she goes overboard over tasking herself, mentally draining herself, incurring needless expenses and taking very dangerous risks,” the PR practitioner wrote in a Facebook post on Monday, March 17, 2025. 

“Dear sister, it is your marriage that failed, not your life. You owe nobody any validation. Try to relive a new life and discard the one that happened in the past. 

“Life is like the onion, it gives us the opportunity to live in layers-that one layer is off, does not mean you are finished. Hell no! You are actually given a new lease to regenerate into something new.

“Divorce is not a shame sentence, it is the room you exit when the heat is much and smokey. Drop the venom, live again – this time in happiness. 

“When you are fixated in impressing or oppressing your ex, it shows something – it means you are still in pain with the past. Let it go and fly in liberty. Gaskiyally musing.”